How a Birth Doula can support in a way that your Partner or Midwife might not be able to.
- elliethedoula30
- Mar 26
- 4 min read
Letty Jeffreys outlines the unique role of the birth doula as part of a bespoke team around the mother/birthing parent.
If you’re expecting a baby, you’re likely thinking about the many ways you’ll be supported
during labour and birth. While your birth partner and midwife will play crucial roles in
supporting you through labour, there is a unique form of support that a birth doula provides,
bridging the gap between physical care, emotional reassurance, and advocacy. Let’s explore
how a doula can make a difference in your birth experience and provide support in ways
your partner or midwife might not be able to.
What is a Birth Doula?
The journey of pregnancy, labour, and childbirth can be deeply emotional and intensely
physical. A birth doula is a trained professional who provides continuous physical, emotional,
and informational support to a mother before, during, and after childbirth. Unlike a midwife,
who focuses on medical care and the delivery process, a doula provides holistic, non-
medical support.
The Role of the Birth Partner
Your partner will likely be your primary source of emotional support during labour. They know
you better than anyone, and their presence will be deeply comforting. But even though they
will be by your side, their role can be complicated. They might be emotionally invested in the
process, and they may not always know what to do or how to help you through the physical
aspects of labour or navigating challenges. They may need breaks or may feel unsure of
how to provide the kind of comfort you need. Sometimes birth partners need to juggle caring
for other children, have their own medical conditions to take care of, or struggle with being
awake for a whole night or two.
The Role of the Midwife
A midwife’s primary responsibility is to ensure the health and safety of both mother and
baby. They monitor the labour’s progress, assist with medical procedures, and provide
clinical care. While midwives are incredibly skilled in medical care, they may not have the
time or capacity to provide you with continuous emotional and physical support throughout
labour. The clinical nature of their role can make it hard to focus on the comfort measures
and emotional reassurance you need during this vulnerable time.
Ways that a Birth Doula can provide support
1. Continuous Emotional and Physical Support
One of the biggest benefits of having a doula is their constant presence throughout your
entire labour. Your doula can provide consistent emotional reassurance including over the
phone in the very early stages; and physical comfort, such as massage, relaxation
techniques, breathing exercises and biomechanics techniques. This means that when your
partner needs a break, or when the midwife is focused on clinical tasks, your doula is there
to support you without hesitation, offering encouragement and reassurance.
2. Unbiased Emotional Support
A doula can offer a neutral, non-judgmental emotional support system that can be incredibly
helpful when you’re navigating the intense emotions of labour.. They help to keep you
grounded and confident, without the personal attachment your partner may have, which can
sometimes lead to them feeling stressed, overwhelmed or anxious. They can offer gentle
encouragement and help you stay calm, especially during moments of fear, pain, or
uncertainty. Their job is to ensure you feel safe and confident, helping you stay grounded
when you need it most.
3. Advocacy and Information
During labour, it’s important that you feel informed and in control of the decisions being
made about your care. Your doula can serve as your advocate, helping you communicate
with your medical team and ensuring your preferences are respected. While a midwife
ensures medical protocols are followed, a doula helps clarify all your options, explaining
procedures or interventions that the midwife may recommend, and supporting your informed
choices. This can be especially helpful if you are choosing to go against medical guidelines
or recommendations. The doula also ensures that your partner understands what's
happening so they can be more involved in the decision-making process.
4. Comfort Techniques and Pain Management
Doulas are often trained in a variety of comfort techniques to manage pain and anxiety, such
as acupressure, counter-pressure, massage, hypnobirthing, breathing techniques and
movement guidance. While your midwife is focused on monitoring medical aspects and your
partner might be offering emotional support, your doula brings in additional techniques to
help you manage the physical aspect of labour, which can provide immediate relief and
comfort.
5. Encouraging Partner Involvement
Sometimes, your partner may feel unsure of how to best support you, especially during a
moment as intense as labour. A doula can help guide them on how to be actively involved,
offering suggestions on how they can participate in providing physical comfort or emotional
reassurance. This enables your partner to feel empowered and confident in their role without
feeling overwhelmed or unsure of what to do.
6. Postpartum Support
Your doula’s support doesn’t end after your baby is born. They provide postpartum care,
offering emotional support as you navigate the early days of parenthood. Whether it’s
helping with breastfeeding, offering advice on newborn care, or just providing a listening ear,
a doula can be an invaluable resource as you adjust to life with your new baby. While your
midwife may follow up with medical visits, your doula focuses on your emotional well-being
during this vulnerable time as well as the practicalities.
Conclusion
As you prepare for your baby’s arrival, consider how a doula can provide a unique and
valuable layer of support. From offering continuous emotional and physical support to
helping your partner be more involved and advocating for your birth preferences, a doula
plays a key role in enhancing your birth experience. By working alongside your midwife and
partner, a doula ensures that you receive the well-rounded care you need to feel supported,
informed, and empowered every step of the way.
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